Forefront Families

There is no such thing as an easy divorce.  There is also no such thing as a child NOT being affected by a family split.  Usually there has been a great deal of tension in the air for years before the separation, and this makes children feel very insecure.  When one parent leaves the home, the children will usually grieve over their absence.  Often there will be critical conversation about the departed parent.  Kids don’t want to hear that.  They become angry or feel guilty thinking it might have been their fault.  When the remaining parent finds another partner, a child may be pleased or might be jealous.  Often the child’s wish is that the original parents get back together.  Insecurity may be made worse when the parent has a number of new ‘friends’, and the children are always wondering if this will be the ‘one’.  They will not want to commit to any of them because of the constant disappointment.